“Time heals everything. Time corrects everything. Time is the solution to every problem, I believe. A lot of things can happen with time. All that has to be there is the intention.” ~ Mehcad Brooks
“Our intention creates our reality.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Hello friends and Happy New Year! I feel like this post deserves two quotes. Also I adore both of them so much, especially the Wayne Dyer quote, that I didn’t want to choose. I actually studied Wayne Dyer when I was doing my yoga mentorship, and I adore his books. If you haven’t read anything by him, I highly, highly recommend doing so!
I don’t want to age us all, but if you have been around this blog for awhile (ahem years ahem) then you know that I am not one for making New Year’s Resolutions. This isn’t to say I am against them, because I am most definitely not. I actually admire those who do make them and there are several amazing bloggers turned friends who do them and I adore reading their posts. In fact Dannii of A Beautiful Thing2015 is the queen of kicking tushy when it comes to resolutions and I not only adore her as a human but draw inspiration from her through out the year as she writes about her goals.
Why I don’t do them
I don’t want to turn this into a long diatribe of WHY they aren’t for me, not only because I have explained it plenty of times over the years, but also because we are all different and unique. For me resolutions or goals are something that you can work on ALL year and constantly create new ones. I also prefer to use my birthday as an evaluation and reset then the New Year which in my Kate brain seems more bandwagonish and impersonal.
Coincidentally, or perhaps because it WAS 2020, and it was a myriad of a cluster you know what, and the last couple months, especially, have been difficult, I had been playing around with a couple different goals to focus on and help get me through. Especially since I could feel myself gravitating to old habits, that while comfortable, were NOT healthy in the least. And I knew I had to make some changes, ironically they just happened to coincide with the New Year. But perhaps this will also give you some inspiration.
As a writer and yogi words and mantras are incredibly meaningful AND powerful to me. I know many people who don’t just do resolutions, but also a word of the year. Again, I have never done that, because life is not dictated by years, but seasons. Seasons that don’t always last the full year. Sometimes they last weeks, or months and sometimes they last YEARS.
In November as the holidays were approaching, it seemed that God was reminding me of lessons I thought I knew, but apparently I didn’t. In the midst of stress, agony, and disbelief, I kept coming back to a word that for this season, has not only become my mantra, but how I am consciously living life: with Intention.
I have spoken before how we are in charge of our emotional state, angry, sad, happy, joyful, we can control those emotions if we so choose, or our “Natural” state which we don’t realize half the time, takes over. That is why writing five things you are grateful for, and scripting are such important exercises to do. It helps change your brain’s mindset. While yes I want to come from a place of joy, and yes I have to consciously work at it, what kept going through my brain wasn’t joy, but Intention, which at first didn’t make sense, but now seems quite fitting.
To be Intentional with my thoughts, actions, and words. Being Intentional with my time both with what I am doing and WHO I am spending time WITH. To be intentional with food. AND being intentional with what I put out into the universe, both with thoughts and actions as well as the cyber world.
Such an underrated word, but it has so much feeling and emotion, that even encompasses our desires and yes wanting to find joy. Because to live with intention goes deeper then our actions, it goes to our thoughts, our very core. It goes to our very being. In a world where we can just lash out behind a keyboard within seconds, instead, I am choosing to pause and be intentional. To weigh whether my words help or hurt. Whether I am, to quote Ghandi, “Being the change I want to see in the world.” I am not being reactive, which can be so easy to do, but intentionally reflective.
This last week especially, has tested that, but it is when it is the most difficult that you need to lean in rather then out. Adversity is only bad when you deal with it in a negative way, which is why I am really trying to move from a place of intention, where I know my actions will do the most good and create the best change in a positive light for myself, for others, and the world as a whole.
I don’t know what this; season, year, chapter, phase of life, whatever you want to call it, will bring. As those of us who have been through excruciating life changes can attest too, dates and time don’t change our emotional mindsets. WE do. It is up to us, all of us, on whether we choose anger or love, and how we will heal. It is up to us, to do the work, to be better and to come from a place of intention.
So let this be a season of intention. Let hurt not drive our anger, but let it heal and give light to positive change. Let it drive us to be the change and goodness and hope we need, because we can, and we will. Because even in the darkness and in the tough times, I have hope, and with it comes the intention to hold on to that.
Sending you all so much love <3
Do you make New Year’s Resolutions? What are your thoughts on them?