“Plant seeds every single day that you know who you are, you know what you’re about and you know what goals you’ve set for yourself.” —Stephen Curry
A 2022 Recap
If you have been around the good ol’ blog a time or two, you know I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. I just don’t. I feel like so may people jump on the band wagon and then a month later end up abandoning their resolutions, because of unreachable goals. I have always looked at my birthday as more of a time to make resolutions then New Year’s. That said, there are a few wishes I have for the new Year, especially going into 2023.
Not going to lie 2022 was ROUGH on so many levels. I dealt with some pretty serious health issues and I am actually entering into 2023 sick, (but hopefully a much better ‘tude). I also had family members go through some super scary health issues, as well as some other extremely difficult things that for me was difficult to watch my loved ones go through and I tried to be there as best I could, but it was exhausting for me as well. I also mourned the loss of some super close friendships where I made the hard decision to let them go because I KNEW I deserved better. It doesn’t make it easier, but you have to take care of yourself and I KNOW if my sister was here she would say the same exact thing to me.
2022 wasn’t all bad though. I got to travel a ton for work, back to pre-covid levels and I was in my element. It felt so good to jump on a plane, yes even going through security, and being able to see the world again. I got to reconnect with friends and family and spend time with them, especially my super sweet and smart god-daughter. I got to have family reunions and friend reunions. Two of my best friends had babies after trying for years to have them. Amongst the difficulties, there was so much good.
Yes, 2022 was rough, but those moments have given me so much gratitude for the positive this year also brought. Life is filled with dualities. There are sucky moments and there are positive moments. It is up to us to take both in stride and realize we need both to truly embrace life and live it to the fullest.
For 2023 that is what I am hoping to do. I definitely hope to be healthier, and for my family to be healthy, but I also know after this year I can handle anything in 2023. I am also trying to focus more on the good. The GOOD people in my life. Those who WANT to be in my life, and make the effort and actually communicate that and are receptive. I am done trying to make friends and family want to hang out with me and embracing those who actually make the effort and appreciate me for me, and are supportive in both the bad times and the good. I am striving to surround myself with GOOD people. No, I am not saying to gas-light myself with positivity because I have quite a few friends who call me on my bullshit and I appreciate that to no end, but no, the people who know that there is light even in the darkness and are open to everyone’s pain not just their own.
I have no space for negativity, and/or selfish people. I want empathetic, compassionate, caring, adventurous, straight talking, communicative relationships. And most of all healthy. Perhaps that is my mantra. I want health, both physical, mental, emotional, life in general. I do not want toxicity of any kind in my life. While this is my hope, I am not so naive to think that I won’t encounter moments of upheaval and people who push boundaries, but I am hoping by working on my OWN boundaries and communication skills, I can negate the impact on myself with tools I have learned over the years, but most especially this past year.
There is so much we can not control in this life, but we can control our reactions. We can control our responses. We can control how we handle adversity, and hurt, and joy. The good and the bad. We can put into place boundaries and learn tools on how to be healthier and how to communicate better, and this 2023 THAT is what I am working on. We are spiritual beings on an incredibly human journey, that is always evolving, because we always evolve, and that is a true gift. Life is a gift. Being able to ring in the New Year is a gift. And I am choosing to look at 2023 that way. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here, for your support, connection, friendship, and love!
Happy New Year friends! May 2023 be incredibly full. <3
What are you looking for in 2023?